我毕业于宾夕法尼亚大学，后来在UCLA安德森商学院读了MBA，但我一直跟人说，[b]我是我们家最笨的一个，至少是受教育程度最低的一个。[/b]
[h1][b]1.被最强大脑围绕[/b][/h1]我父母都是博士，妹妹也是博士，哥哥虽然不是博士，但他有硕士双学位（一个MBA，一个生物化学硕士学位）。
[b]不但如此，我爸妈的7个兄弟姐妹中，6个是博士。[/b]我一个叔叔是哈佛癌症研究领头人，另一个叔叔29岁就当上了斯坦福国际法的系主任，还有个叔叔在联合国工作，后来成了哥伦比亚大学经济学教授。普林斯顿、耶鲁、康奈尔、麻省理工也有我们家人的身影，他们要么是本科毕业于这些学校，要么硕士在这些学校读。你们能想象的到吧。
但在我的成长过程中，我在这样一个高知家庭没有感受到任何压力，并不觉得我长大后一定要怎样厉害，一定要出人头地。不知怎的，这些高智商的头脑完全没有影响到我。我就是个逍遥自在、无忧无虑的小男孩。体育好，人缘好，我觉得这些就够了。
我母亲和许多中国母亲一样，希望我能进所好大学，当个医生。但我不是那种很用功的人，也没把读书这件事放在心上，更没有什么远大志向。
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[h1][b]2.头脑简单就是傻乐呵呵[/b][/h1]当我读高中时，我哥哥比我高一年级，他所有暑假都在约翰霍普金斯大学预修大学课程，而我整个暑假都在打网球，看好久电视，打棒球，和朋友到处浪。
[b]说实在的，在我的成长过程中，我没有意识到自己出身在一个书香世家。对我来说，他们就是我的家庭成员、亲戚而已，是普通人。你也可以说我那时有点活在自己的世界里。[/b]因此，我也不害怕他们，他们的聪明才华也没有让我受到困扰。
以后要上哪所大学，我自己是一点儿也不在意。我日子过得十分开心，甚至还打算在本地上大学，因为我好几个朋友都会去那所大学。除了宾夕法尼亚大学，我申请的其他大学都拒了我。直到今天，我也不知道这是怎么回事。
开始工作后，我依然还是老样子。有个体面的工作，独立自主，做自己想做的事，对此我感到心满意足。能和朋友一起聚聚，当个好人，当个好男友，这些已经够了。一开始，这种感觉不错，[b]但一年年过去，我开始觉得没那么有意思了，空虚感慢慢袭来。生活没有什么真正的目标感，这开始困扰起我来。[/b]
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[h1][b]3.你不能忽略周遭的一切[/b][/h1][b]等我再大一些，我们家的学术氛围开始对我起作用了。大概二十五六岁时，我称之为觉醒时刻。[/b]觉醒发生在我来到中国旅游的时候，这一次旅游改变了我的一生（这是另一个故事，如果你感兴趣的话可以点击链接！[url=https://www.zhihu.com/question/28783772/answer/116279138]社区 - 与世界分享你的知识、经验和见解[/url]）。这是第一次我开始认真对待生活，对待我的工作。
[b]与此同时，我也希望在生活中做些改变，这时我才开始意识到原来我家人每一个都这么厉害。[/b]这时，再碰到他们时，我开始有了紧张感和危机感。我不知道要和他们说什么，觉得自己的想法好像都很low。
我记得那时和一位叔叔聊天，他说他在努力每天看一本书。你能信吗？一天一本！我一个月能看完一本就谢天谢地了！
作为书香世家的一份子是怎样一种体验呢？[b]在我成长过程中，他们说不上对我有多大影响，但当我长大成人，开始认真对待人生和工作后，他们对我有了很大影响。但他们对我影响最大的不是智商，而是工作态度、目的感和谦逊。[/b]
我的家人从不曾炫耀他们的学术成绩，也不会让人觉得智商高有多么了不起。他们的善良和慷慨与智商无关，这是性格使然。
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[h1][b]4.有些东西就是深入血液的[/b][/h1]如今我如此热爱现在的事业，一大原因就是他们。我的公司名“王李亚洲资源”的由来就是他们。我们公司不是家族企业，但我想通过这个名字，向影响我至深的父亲一家（姓“王”）和母亲一家（姓“李”）表达敬意。[b]在他们医药领域、公共卫生、国际关系、和全球经济的职业生涯中，他们同时也投身于改善社会和其他人的生活。就说我吧，我渺小的愿望就是帮助身边的人们更好地取得职业成功和以实现他们的潜力。[/b]
我花了很多年才认识到他们的影响，但我可以自豪地说，我和家族中的许多人很像。[b]最像的就是我不把现在做的事情看作工作，甚至不认为这是一份职业。用我母亲的话说，我做的是毕生事业。[/b]我的家人们就是这样看到他们所做的事情的。可能这就是“老派”做法吧。
我还要再提一件事。我在读高中时，我的一位叔叔告诉我，[b]“如果你想做些特别的事，那很好。大胆去做！但如果不想，也没关系。长大当个好人也非常好。好人越多，世界越好。”[/b]他的这段话基本就是我们这一书香世家秉承的价值观，也是我从他们那学来的道理。
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[h1][b]1. Surrounded by brainiacs![/b][/h1]My mom and dad both have PhDs. My little sister also has a PhD. My older brother doesn’t have one, but he does have two Masters degrees. One is an MBA and the other is a Masters in Biochemistry.
[b]Not only this, among my mom and dad’s seven brothers and sisters, six of them have PhDs.[/b] One of my uncles was the head of cancer research at Harvard. Another uncle became the Dean of International Law at Stanford at age 29. Another uncle worked for the United Nations, and then later as a professor of Economics at Columbia University. Princeton, Yale, Cornell, and MIT are also schools that relatives in my family have either undergraduate or graduate degrees from. You get the picture.
But growing up, I have to say that I felt no pressure in my family to do or become anything special. Somehow being in the presence of all this brain power escaped me. In our family, I was just a happy-go-lucky, easy going, playful boy. I was good at sports. I was likeable and made friends easily. That seemed to be good enough.
Like many Chinese moms, mine wanted me to go to a good university and become a doctor. But I wasn’t a very hard-working student and didn’t take school very seriously. And I had no real ambition or desire to be anything.
[h1][b]2. A simple mind is a happy mind [/b][/h1]When we were in high school, my older brother who was one year ahead of me spent his summers taking college courses at Johns Hopkins University. Meanwhile, I spent my summers playing tennis and baseball, watching a lot of TV, and just goofing around with my friends.
[b]To be honest, I really wasn’t that aware of what an intellectual family I was part of while growing up. They were all just my family members and relatives to me, just regular people who weren’t particularly exceptional or special. I guess you could say that I was a bit self-absorbed back then.[/b] As a result, I was never in awe of them, or intimidated by how smart they were.
For me, I didn’t really care where I went to college. I was perfectly happy and even prepared to attend the local university, where several of my friends were going to go. I even got rejected from all the other schools I applied to, except for the University of Pennsylvania. Even today, I don’t know how to explain that one.
After I began working, I continued to just live for the day. I was quite content to just have a decent job, be independent, and do what I wanted. That mostly involved spending time with my friends, being a good guy, and being an awesome boyfriend. This was great at first. [b]But as each year passed, it began to become less fun and increasingly empty. The lack of any real purpose or goals for my life started to get to me.[/b]
[h1][b]3. You can’t ignore things around you forever[/b][/h1][b]Where all the academic muscle in my family started to have an effect on me was when I got older. In my mid-20s, I had what I call an[/b] [b][i]awakening[/i].[/b] It happened during my first trip to China, which was a life-changing event for me (that’s another story, but if you're interested in it! [url=https://www.zhihu.com/question/28783772/answer/116279138]社区 - 与世界分享你的知识、经验和见解[/url] ). It was the first time I began to take a serious look at my life and what I was doing.[b]As my desire to do something with my life grew, so did my awareness of how impressive the people in my family were and what they did.[/b] When I began realizing how smart and amazing they all were, I started getting nervous when I was around them. I didn’t know what to say to them. Whatever I could think of seemed simple and stupid to me.
During a conversation with one of my uncles back then, I remember him telling me that he tried to read a book a day. Can you believe that? A book a day! I was happy if I could finish a book a month!
But here’s what I want to say about being part of an intellectual family. [b]I can’t say that this had a big impact on me when I was growing up. But it certainly did when I became an adult, and once I started taking my life and career more seriously. But much more than their intellect, it’s the work ethic, sense of purpose, and humility of those in my family that have influenced me the most.[/b]
Because not once do I ever recall anyone in my family drawing attention to their academic achievements or acting as if being smart made them a better person. The fact that they were kind-hearted, generous people had nothing to do with their intelligence. It was because of their character.
[h1][b]4. Some things are just in your blood[/b][/h1]They’re the reason why I’m so dedicated and committed to what I do today. It’s why my company is called Wang & Li Asia Resources. It’s not a family business, but I wanted to show my respects to those from my dad’s family, the Wangs, and my mom’s family, the Lis, who have influenced me so much. [b]Through their careers in medicine, public health, international relations, and world economics, they’ve dedicated themselves to improve society and the lives of others. In my case, my humble desire is to help people here better achieve their career success and fulfill their full potential.[/b]
It took me a while, but I’m proud to say that I take after many in my family. Mainly, [b]like them, I don’t look at what I do as a job or even a career. In the words of my mom, what I do is my life’s work.[/b] This describes the way many in my family approach what they do or did. I like to refer to it as “old school.”
I’ll just mention one more thing. When I was in high school, I remember one of my uncles telling me, [b]“If you want to do something special with your life, that’s great. Go for it! But if not, that’s okay too. Just going through life being a good person is a very good thing. The world can use more people like that.”[/b] That pretty much captures what my family of outstanding scholars and achievers values most, and what I have learned from them.
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